By David Wygant
Tell me if this sounds at all familiar to you (although I’m betting the answer is YES). You go out to a bar because you want to meet women, BUT once you’re there you always STRUGGLE to come up with something to say.
To be more specific, you really struggle because you are not sure what is the RIGHT thing to say to the women you want to meet. Am I right?
Well, you are CERTAINLY not alone in this. In fact, this is probably over the course of my 11 years of coaching men one of the MOST COMMON things that guys struggle with in meeting women.
I have men who email me on their BlackBerry from inside bars when they see a woman they want to talk to but are frozen because they don’t know what to say. They’ll text me and say, “David, I see this beautiful woman across the bar. What do I say? How do I come up with something really clever to say that will intrigue her?”
I have news for you, and it’s just a fact of meeting women in bars: Most women will do nothing. They will check a guy out a bunch of times, but will rarely ever talk to (or even say hello to) a guy.
So where does this leave you? Don’t worry – you just need to realize this fact and come up with a whole different approach.
Luckily I can HELP YOU do this … AND it can be both EASY and FUN!
I’m not kidding. And I’m going to give you one of my FAVORITE TIPS for how to EASILY approach women in a bar.
You will love this one…
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Okay, so let’s get back to this great APPROACH I want to tell you about.
How many times have you been out at night, and a group of women are taking those ridiculous digital camera pictures? I know you’ve seen them…
I mean really, how many pictures do women need of they and their friends drinking? I know most women love putting these pictures up on their online dating profile.
===> Extra Tip: These kind of pictures, by the way, are really poor choices to put on your profile, because if you put up three pictures of you getting sloshed when in fact you don’t really drink that often, this will tend to cause a disconnect somewhere. Not only that, but when I look at pictures of women (or men) drinking in their online profile, especially if they have more than one of those kind of pictures, I don’t see “fun person” … I see “lush.”
But I digress…
Here is how to have a fun time with those party girls with the digital camera, and how to be able to approach them EASILY at the same time. A way to approach beautiful women that’s easy and fun — sounds pretty good, right?
So here’s how you do it…
I was out with a client the other night, and we saw one of these groups of girls taking pictures of themselves with their digital camera. My client said to me “I am going to go over there and take their picture.”
I said “No, no, no … You don’t want to be a photographer. Everybody uses that approach. You need to walk over and say ‘Let me take your picture’ just like you were going to, but you need to add one more element after you’ve finished taking their picture.”
Then I described to him a BETTER way to approach this situation. I told him “Hand the camera to one of her friends and say ‘Now take a picture of all of you with me.’
Stand in the middle of the group for the picture and put your arms around the two girls next to you. When you’re there, follow-up very quickly and say to both of them, ‘Now you can tell your friends that I was the crazy guy you slept with that night.’
One of them is going to respond, if not both, and they are going to laugh. You’re then going to say ‘You better tell your friends that I was good.’ Then you start talking about the great sex that you had with her.”
Then I sent my client over to try it with that group of girls. This is a far more interesting approach then just taking their picture. It also just leads to much more fun stories, especially when people are drunk and having fun.
So try this approach the next time you’re out. You might be surprised how EASY and fun it can be to approach women …
If you want to not only learn how to create YOUR OWN unique approaches in the places YOU go every day, and how to be able to approach ANY woman you want with TOTAL CONFIDENCE every time, then you need to read this letter right away: